One of my readers has posed a question in regard to my last blog entry. As I am quite flattered to have my first such inquiry, I am obliged to issue a response. Also, it seems some verbal housekeeping needs to be done as some of my language seems to have been lost on some of my readers, mainly those of the straight variety.
Let’s start with the housekeeping, get it over with. I should not have assumed that everyone knew the vernacular. My apologies. A ‘top’ is the male partner that, well, how to put this delicately….does the inserting during the sexual act. A ‘bottom’ is the one who receives during the sexual act. Or is that too delicate? In other words, the bottom is the one who takes it up the….surely you get the idea. And versatile, well that means he can go either way. Any others that come up, just let me know, I’ll be glad to define them.
Now, on to the question posed to me previously. In the previous entry, I listed several types of men that fit under the umbrella of ‘homosexual.’ And if you read the comments, you will see that I have been asked where I fall into this plethora of possibilities. I ponder over the idea of whether to tell you or not, or rather have you make your own decision on the matter. I would prefer to think that I do not fit into any category specifically and cannot be defined by any cookie cutter image of a man, but that would be the idealist talking. I suppose that there is a little bit of each flavor in me somewhere, although ‘leather-man’ probably wouldn’t fit, nor ‘bear’ (or cub), and I’m way past ‘twink.’ And I’m certainly not the ‘old fart,’ ‘bar fly,’ or ‘drag queen’ (I’ve only worn make-up once in my life, and that was for a school play. I had to ask the girl who put it on how to take it back off). That narrows it down, I guess. And since I’ve never been married, don’t claim to be bi, and have an equal number of male and female friends, that cuts it down even more. And I will whole-heartedly deny any claims to the ‘workaholic’ label. I’d much rather enjoy my life than spend it working myself to death.
In general, I’d say I’m more of conglomeration of the rest. The ‘professional’ (of course). I admit that I can be a ‘brand whore’ sometimes. I do go to the gym, but not five times a week, and certainly not to show off, but maybe there’s a little bit of ‘jock’ there. Ha. ‘Drama queen’ is one I’d rather not be associated with, but I can’t say I haven’t gossiped or been involved in a few dramatic bouts just like the rest of us. The inner ‘circuit kid’ comes out about once a month when I feel the need to dance to the latest dance tunes and techno in a half (if not full) drunken stupor. And I guess I’m part ‘dreamer,’ part ‘regular-guy,’ and part ‘loner’ at times, depending on my mood. Really, I just try to be as genuine and straightforward as possible; and it seems that I am becoming more and more of an open book as we continue on this journey. It’s a ‘what you see is what you get’ mentality, and hopefully that’s what comes across.
I don’t think anyone really fits perfectly into any category solely and specifically. We can joke about it, and hopefully laugh at ourselves; but we’re all unique people in the end, and that’s what makes life great. So beyond what’s here, I’ll defer to letting you decide for yourself what categories I fit into and what makes me, well, me.
Any further questions are certainly encouraged. I will do my best to answer them, and thanks for the interest!
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