I have only sat through the Superbowl and actually watched it maybe once in my years on this earth. Last year I went with a group of friends to one of the local bar/wing joints in town, but I couldn't tell you who played, what the score was, or anything else of that nature. I vaguely recall Prince (or whatever he's calling himself these days) and his phallic guitar at the halftime show, mostly because the entire bar sort of paused for a moment and sang in unison with one of his more popular songs. Not that I am anti-sport minded or anything of that nature (give me a good tennis match, the Olympics, or take me to a baseball game any day). I just happen to find football revolting.
So instead of watching the game last night, I opted for the most anti-Superbowl programming available for the night, namely the L word on Showtime. For those of you not familiar, it is a show about Lesbians (thus, the big L) in Los Angeles. Never in a million years would I have thought that I would find such a program entertaining (after all, I'm the wrong gender to be a Lesbian); but since the beginning of this latest season, I have been hooked, making it a weekly event to watch the program with a couple of my dearest friends. Of course, you have to get passed the lady on lady action (blech!), but once you do, there is definitely some substance there.
So instead of watching the game last night, I opted for the most anti-Superbowl programming available for the night, namely the L word on Showtime. For those of you not familiar, it is a show about Lesbians (thus, the big L) in Los Angeles. Never in a million years would I have thought that I would find such a program entertaining (after all, I'm the wrong gender to be a Lesbian); but since the beginning of this latest season, I have been hooked, making it a weekly event to watch the program with a couple of my dearest friends. Of course, you have to get passed the lady on lady action (blech!), but once you do, there is definitely some substance there.
L L L L L L L L L
Anyway, the reason I am telling you about this is that there was a line in last night's show that struck me as particularly striking. Two of the main characters in the series are former lovers, one of which has moved onto to another long-term relationship. They remain friends, however; but in the heat of a moment last week, the two reunited in a passionate kiss, leaving confusion abound. For the first half of this week's show, the attached ex fumbles around trying to find some way to either justify what happened, rekindle the love that was once there, or erase it completely from memory, it is hard to tell. She calls the ex on the telephone on the guise of asking for advice on a personal matter, but it is rather obvious that that is only an excuse to make contact with her. The ex indulges her for a while, but later at a party, they face each other again with this thing, this kiss, between them. They fumble around their words for a while, not knowing what to say, when finally the single ex basically cuts it off, says that the kiss was a mistake and that it won't happen again, reconfirming the other ex's love for her new lover and pushing past it, at least for the moment. What struck me about the interaction between the two is when the single ex basically told the other to simply stop making such a big deal about it, to stop trying to analyze the whole situation, and to stop acting like this kiss was something that would bring them back into contact with each other on an increased basis. She said it all in one line: "Let's just talk when we talk."
The reason it struck me so much is that I have been in the situation myself, using anything and everything I could hold on to to keep contact with someone I loved, or thought I loved. Finding excuses to call, trying to over-analyze every little word and interaction, thinking that it required some sort of deep discussion to get to the meaning of it all. It is exacltly like stumbling around like a teenager, not knowing what to do, not knowing how to handle your own emotions. By doing that, however, we create our own world of turmoil and strife. We make our lives difficult and weigh ourselves down with uncertainties and petty games.
If you try to force relationships and interactions or over-analyze the situation, you run the risk of destroying what's already there or killing any possibility of a relationship before it even begins. Sometimes you do simply have to 'talk when you talk' and go with the flow. If something happens, it happens, if not, oh well. The point being, don't make more of something than it is. Sometimes a kiss if just a kiss. Just let it be a kiss and move on. Of course, I doubt our lesbian friends are through with this story line, but I guess I'll just have to keep tuning in to find out.
Anyway, the reason I am telling you about this is that there was a line in last night's show that struck me as particularly striking. Two of the main characters in the series are former lovers, one of which has moved onto to another long-term relationship. They remain friends, however; but in the heat of a moment last week, the two reunited in a passionate kiss, leaving confusion abound. For the first half of this week's show, the attached ex fumbles around trying to find some way to either justify what happened, rekindle the love that was once there, or erase it completely from memory, it is hard to tell. She calls the ex on the telephone on the guise of asking for advice on a personal matter, but it is rather obvious that that is only an excuse to make contact with her. The ex indulges her for a while, but later at a party, they face each other again with this thing, this kiss, between them. They fumble around their words for a while, not knowing what to say, when finally the single ex basically cuts it off, says that the kiss was a mistake and that it won't happen again, reconfirming the other ex's love for her new lover and pushing past it, at least for the moment. What struck me about the interaction between the two is when the single ex basically told the other to simply stop making such a big deal about it, to stop trying to analyze the whole situation, and to stop acting like this kiss was something that would bring them back into contact with each other on an increased basis. She said it all in one line: "Let's just talk when we talk."
The reason it struck me so much is that I have been in the situation myself, using anything and everything I could hold on to to keep contact with someone I loved, or thought I loved. Finding excuses to call, trying to over-analyze every little word and interaction, thinking that it required some sort of deep discussion to get to the meaning of it all. It is exacltly like stumbling around like a teenager, not knowing what to do, not knowing how to handle your own emotions. By doing that, however, we create our own world of turmoil and strife. We make our lives difficult and weigh ourselves down with uncertainties and petty games.
If you try to force relationships and interactions or over-analyze the situation, you run the risk of destroying what's already there or killing any possibility of a relationship before it even begins. Sometimes you do simply have to 'talk when you talk' and go with the flow. If something happens, it happens, if not, oh well. The point being, don't make more of something than it is. Sometimes a kiss if just a kiss. Just let it be a kiss and move on. Of course, I doubt our lesbian friends are through with this story line, but I guess I'll just have to keep tuning in to find out.
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