The Gay Sex Dictionary

Feeling a bit Frivolous today, I thought perhaps we'd review a few terms and practices that not everyone may be familiar with, trying to focus the list on the practices of gay men (although most would generally apply to anyone). I know we've clarified a few things on this blog in previous entries, but perhaps a comprehensive list would be more productive for past and future reference if in fact I use some word or term that is unfamiliar with some of our readers. The list may range from tame to downright vulgar, but we might as well put it all out there, provide a little education whether it's pretty or not.

Fellatio- i.e. blow job, oral sex, sucking cock, giving head, etc. A mouth, a penis, you get the idea. Just remember, it's not a straw.

Rimming- licking, tonguing, sucking, or generally arousing a partner's anal opening with your mouth. If you're going to do it or have it done to you, for goodness sakes be clean down there!

Vanilla sex- there are a few different interpretations of this one. For most gay men it means having sex but not going "all the way" (i.e. anything but anal sex). Nothing kinky or extravagant, it's the basics of arousing each other.

Fisting- the practice of inserting one's fist into his partner's rectum. One thing I have no intention of ever trying and find hard to believe that anyone truly enjoys. But to each his own. They even sell plastic versions, like dildos, for personal pleasure.

Dildo- they come in all shapes in sizes, some vibrate, some don't, some have two or three heads for group action. They are generally made of plastic or glass and are shaped and sized like a penis for pleasuring oneself or a partner. They are the anchor to any good sex-toy collection.

Fetish- technically, to be a fetish, one can only be able to get off (to cum or ejaculate) when in the presence of said object or scenario. Without it, arousal is impossible. A lot of people call things fetishes, but they may just simply be something that turns him on but may not be completely necessary for arousal. They can range from things like socks, underwear, or shoes, to being tied up, being choked, or simply being outside. The list ranges from the very mild to the absolute bizarre. I've mentioned this before, but the most unusual one I ever head was haircuts.

Cum- ejaculate, sperm, jiz, cream, whatever you want to call it, it can be a mess if you're not careful.

Top- the insertive partner, whether it be into his partner's mouth or rear end.

Bottom- the receiving partner in either oral or anal intercourse.

Intercrural sex- there is no insertion, but rather the 'top' thrusts his penis between the other man's thighs. Kind of a mock way of having sex. Tends to be more pleasurable for the top if done properly. May be safer as it is a non-penetrative form of sex.

S&M- or slave and master. May be considered a fetish, but generally one partner takes control of the situation and the other does whatever he is told to do. Often involves whips, chains, blind folds, ball gags, nipple clamps, leather, elaborate scenarios, and sometimes pain.

Fucking- anal sex, corn-holing, 'going all the way.' Many gay men consider this real gay sex, everything else being simply foreplay.

Foreplay- everything from kissing to rubbing to dirty talk. It's the stuff that gets you aroused before the main event.

PNP- usually this is an abbreviation seen on internet profiles. It means party-and-play. Which generally means he wants to smoke a little weed (or participate in some other drug activity) before getting your clothes off.

Frot- the rubbing of two penises together. Often when to men face each other, it happens naturally or one will take both members into his hand at once and rub them together.

Tea-room- generally a public restroom or other meeting place where men meet for anonymous sex.

Tea bagging- placing of the scrotum into another's face.

Well, it seems there are more than I thought, so we will have to continue this into the next entry.